I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing. John 15:5 KJV
As for me and my house, we shall serve the Lord
Dating = Sex, or atleast thats what society has brainwashed us to believe. I just can't believe how casual and "game-like" sex has become in the lives of teenagers, and even younger kids! Instead of just a "few bad apples" sneaking around to do this now its become the natural progression of dating before anyone even thinks of getting married!
Its pretty bad when my young nephew gets a note from a girl at school saying she wants to have sex with him, and they both are only in the SECOND grade! Or when a Kindergarten boy asks a girl if he can "touch her breasts". When did sex become such a part of everyones lives???
Sadly, that answer is when it became such a part of ALL entertainment and selling practices. Would beer really be so attractive to young boys if a fat slob of a man were seen in the ads sitting in his recliner rather then a skinny large chested super model acting provocatively? I don't think so, and these companies know this. Sex has so infultrated our society that it is no longer "just for those that are married" but now it seems to be fair game for anyone and everyone. If your not having sex then your looked at as weird or a wimp of some kind.
One of the biggest problems with this "sex is a game" attitude is it doesn't show the fact that sex is so much more then just physical. Its very very emotional!! I just recently learned that sex is how men intimately relate to their wives. When a woman refuses sexual advances by her husband he isn't merely upset that he didn't "get any" he is truly hurting and feeling rejected....much like when a woman puts on a special outfit and her husband barely even notices or even worse critisizes how she looks in it.
From the female perspective, to allow a guy into that inner most part of you really does take alot of trust. You are exposing the most intimate parts of you, hiding nothing from that guy. And then when that relationship ends you feel ashamed and betrayed. You feel taken advantage of because what trust you thought you had, wasn't really there and the pain you feel is intensified! It really is truly safer to wait until your married. Because you will have built that level of trust while you were dating (or atleast you should have if you had a healthy dating life) and you are far less likely to feel the pain of shame for having trusted someone too soon!
But NONE of this is brought to light on TV or on the billboards. Sex is everywhere because "it feels good" "its fun" "its the thing to do".....yet nobody truly understands what sex is...even after having been hurt people don't understand why it hurts so much.
That is why God says NOT TILL YOUR MARRIED!! He knows the emotional side of it. He designed it! He knows what your risking by going that far too soon! Waiting till your married to have sex is not about being prudish or tightly wound, its not about being afraid or weird...its about protecting yourself from pain and hurt that is totally 100% completely avoidable and you DON'T have to go through if you would just be willing to wait!
From my own observations, it seems that once sex enters a dating relationship, 9 times out of 10 that relationship is doomed to fail. Once in a while that tenth one stays together but it doesn't happen often and how many hurt people are running around wishing they'd never gone that far that soon??
NOT ONE SINGLE PERSON HAS EVER SAID THEY REGRETTED WAITING TILL MARRIAGE TO HAVE SEX, YET COUNTLESS NUMBERS OF BOTH MEN AND WOMEN HAVE EXPRESSED EXTREME REGRET FOR HAVING NOT WAITED!